Surrendering Victimhood

Victimhood is where you reside when your life is based in imbalanced emotions. To learn this for oneself is to develop emotional intelligence.

Emotions based on life experiences where you experienced the emotions of betrayal, resentment, abandonment, feelings of loss and grief and any other emotions that were based on lack of love creates victimhood.

So how does one leave victimhood to relocate to a place of peace, joy, balance and harmony?

First, you must identify the emotions that are blocking you from thriving in your personal, spiritual and professional life.

Secondly, stop resisting the experience of the emotions. Many people mask their painful emotions with external pacifiers such as alcohol, drugs, unhealthy relationships, food and other self-sabotaging methods.

Make your emotions your allies for your much deserved healing within. We can do this by clarifying their roots, i.e. ask yourself, “why do I feel abandoned by this person.” As your ally, the emotion of abandonment can show you that you first experienced it when your father died when you was only 7 years old. At 7 when you first experienced the emotion of abandonment you tucked the emotion away in your subconscious and every time that feeling comes to you, your subconscious mind reminds you of the feeling and you relive it over and over again.

My first relationship as a teenager was with a guy full of betrayal. After I ended the relationship by leaving town, I kept attracting men (including my first husband, the father of my children) who would betray me because I was still holding on to the emotion of resentment. I resented my first love for betraying me instead of forgiving him and moving on. ( I didn’t know how essential forgiveness was to my healing at the time.). I was rejecting the potential for a sound healthy harmonized relationship with someone else because I was now living in victimhood. In this place, trust is nonexistence. In essence, I was self-sabotaging my own possibility for happiness.

When my second marriage ended I had been on a self-healing journey for about 5 years. I had been attending conferences, workshops, eating more healthy, reading tons of self-help books etc. My circle of friends and associates had changed to a tribe of conscious sisters and brothers. So when we divorced I was wiser , more confident in myself. We departed and went our separate ways peacefully.

I’m here to tell you that It still wasn’t easy.

I had been a student of A Course in Miracles for several years, which taught me how to forgive myself and the world for what never happened. It never happened because it was all an illusion. True, it did happened but only in a dream. My true reality was still perfect and intact because there is nothing but love in truth and nothing can threaten this true reality where the Creator sits on Its throne

To think that you can be threatened by illusions or anything or anyone that is not of love is like believing that you can usurp the throne of God and this is not possible. In essence, to leave victimhood is a conscious effort that only you can make for yourself by not denying the truth of who you are and who God is to you. God is Love, and so are you, one with God. Yeshua said "The Father and I are one." You claim everything Yeshua said if you truly are His disciple. Therefore, you cannot be threaten or hurt by anything or anyone that appears to make you feel like a victim, because you are sovereign. So when you feel threatened with negative emotions of fear (abandonment, resentment, anger, betrayal etc.) remind yourself that they are not the truth but just illusions appearing to make you feel like a victim and that your true reality as a creation of God is your only reality.

Atiye Hamilton

Ambassador for Christ Consciousness